20th Century Women

Xerox, 53.92. 606 00:39:21,485 --> 00:39:22,528 - Stop. - Okay. 607 00:39:23,279 --> 00:39:25,573 Fifty-three point nine two. 608 00:39:26,365 --> 00:39:27,408 Listen. 609 00:39:27,533 --> 00:39:29,469 Abbie has her appointment today and I can't be here. 610 00:39:29,493 --> 00:39:30,536 I have to go to work, 611 00:39:30,661 --> 00:39:32,663 so I was hoping that maybe you could be here 612 00:39:33,330 --> 00:39:36,208 when she gets back in case she needs some support. 613 00:39:36,750 --> 00:39:38,586 She's going through a lot. 614 00:39:39,503 --> 00:39:43,424 Okay, well, like, what if it's, like, bad news or something? 615 00:39:44,550 --> 00:39:45,676 Well, you can handle it. 616 00:39:46,135 --> 00:39:49,555 Or if you can't, you have to start somewhere. 617 00:39:51,348 --> 00:39:53,642 Men always feel like they have to fix things 618 00:39:53,726 --> 00:39:55,644 for women or they're not doing anything, 619 00:39:55,728 --> 00:39:58,856 but some things just can't be fixed. 620 00:39:58,981 --> 00:40:00,316 Just be there. 621 00:40:01,233 --> 00:40:03,444 Somehow that's hard for all of you. 622 00:40:05,404 --> 00:40:08,949 Mom, I'm not "all men." Okay? I'm just me. 623 00:40:09,950 --> 00:40:12,369 Well, yes and no. 624 00:40:16,081 --> 00:40:18,584 What if I have to have full-on chemo... 625 00:40:19,502 --> 00:40:21,629 or get a hysterectomy? 626 00:40:22,421 --> 00:40:24,298 Do you know what that is? 627 00:40:26,509 --> 00:40:28,886 Look, I should just go with you, you know? I mean... 628 00:40:35,100 --> 00:40:38,145 Your mom did tell me to share my life with you. 629 00:40:39,438 --> 00:40:41,190 Yeah, I know. 630 00:40:42,316 --> 00:40:44,360 You don't— [laughs] 631 00:40:44,443 --> 00:40:45,903 Don't worry about her. She's— 632 00:40:46,153 --> 00:40:47,780 she's from The Depression. 633 00:40:51,450 --> 00:40:52,535 [Abbie] Yeah. 634 00:40:57,623 --> 00:40:59,917 [doctor] It's good news, Abbie. 635 00:41:01,627 --> 00:41:03,087 There were no malignant cells. 636 00:41:03,963 --> 00:41:05,631 Your biopsy's benign. 637 00:41:09,552 --> 00:41:12,471 And in the future? 638 00:41:13,973 --> 00:41:17,268 There was damage to the muscle wall, from the surgery. 639 00:41:19,645 --> 00:41:21,772 You have an incompetent cervix. 640 00:41:30,739 --> 00:41:32,449 Incompetent? 641 00:41:33,701 --> 00:41:36,537 It may not be strong enough to go full term during pregnancy. 642 00:41:37,496 --> 00:41:40,541 As the baby grows, the cervix widens. 643 00:41:41,500 --> 00:41:43,961 If it's weakened, it's likely to open prematurely. 644 00:41:44,878 --> 00:41:48,257 [melancholy music] 645 00:41:50,467 --> 00:41:52,052 I'm gonna be okay. 646 00:41:56,390 --> 00:41:59,226 He said that I probably can't have kids. 647 00:42:05,858 --> 00:42:07,693 <i>Was having Jamie, like...</i> 648 00:42:08,777 --> 00:42:11,071 the biggest thing that ever happened to you? 649 00:42:11,280 --> 00:42:13,574 ♪♪ 650 00:42:16,160 --> 00:42:17,620 I guess so. 651 00:42:19,913 --> 00:42:22,124 - Sorry. - It's okay. 652 00:42:27,630 --> 00:42:29,673 [Dorothea] You'll get through this. 653 00:42:31,675 --> 00:42:33,552 You will get through it. 654 00:42:34,595 --> 00:42:36,472 You will do it. 655 00:42:40,059 --> 00:42:43,729 You'll— This is the really hard part. And then what happens is, 656 00:42:44,104 --> 00:42:47,107 there's a hard part and then it gets better. 657 00:42:48,609 --> 00:42:50,569 And then it gets hard again, but never mind. 658 00:42:50,653 --> 00:42:53,238 [both laughing] 659 00:42:54,156 --> 00:42:55,866 I shouldn't have told you that part. 660 00:42:56,742 --> 00:43:00,329 I should have just said it gets better and then that's it, but... 661 00:43:01,121 --> 00:43:02,164 You got birds? 662 00:43:02,873 --> 00:43:03,916 [Abbie] Is that okay? 663 00:43:04,333 --> 00:43:05,376 [Dorothea] Yeah. 664 00:43:05,751 --> 00:43:06,919 [birds chirping softly] 665 00:43:08,420 --> 00:43:09,922 So did you name them? 666 00:43:10,506 --> 00:43:11,548 [Abbie] Not yet. 667 00:43:12,132 --> 00:43:14,218 They're a boy and a girl, and... 668 00:43:14,301 --> 00:43:16,512 that they're monogamous for life, so if... 669 00:43:18,639 --> 00:43:20,641 one of them dies, then the other one... 670 00:43:21,684 --> 00:43:23,686 will die like a week later. 671 00:43:23,977 --> 00:43:25,646 [Dorothea] Wow. 672 00:43:27,356 --> 00:43:29,316 Well how 'bout Maximilian and Carlotta? 673 00:43:30,567 --> 00:43:31,610 I— I— 674 00:43:32,403 --> 00:43:33,904 You know, they deserve something grand 675 00:43:33,987 --> 00:43:37,324 if they're gonna be monogamous their whole lives. 676 00:43:37,408 --> 00:43:39,868 - [laughing] - Right? [laughing] 677 00:43:41,787 --> 00:43:45,874 - [sad laughter] - Aw. 678 00:43:48,794 --> 00:43:52,423 [Abbie] Max and Carlotta are really good names. 679 00:43:54,174 --> 00:43:57,261 [Dorothea] So, um, you— 680 00:43:57,344 --> 00:44:00,514 you went to the doctor's and you waited with her. 68