Relationship Goals

And maybe you need to ask the even tougher question: 669 00:29:32,750 --> 00:29:35,583 Does this relationship need to end? 670 00:29:40,500 --> 00:29:43,041 Brenda, are you okay? 671 00:29:43,125 --> 00:29:46,250 I just need to pray on this and sort myself out. 672 00:29:46,333 --> 00:29:47,916 It's just one man's opinion. 673 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:50,208 Yeah, maybe. I don't know. 674 00:29:50,291 --> 00:29:51,291 I have to be honest. 675 00:29:51,375 --> 00:29:53,291 The thing that I keep worrying about is: 676 00:29:53,375 --> 00:29:56,208 Is it God's will, and is it time to end the relationship? 677 00:29:56,291 --> 00:29:58,041 I'm sorry. 678 00:29:58,125 --> 00:30:00,416 Ladies, we are not okay. 679 00:30:01,416 --> 00:30:04,916 You're a mess. You're a mess. I'm a mess. We are all three hot messes, okay? 680 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:07,125 This book is speaking to me. 681 00:30:07,208 --> 00:30:08,458 I've been reading it. 682 00:30:08,541 --> 00:30:10,958 - You mean decorating it? - I'm being serious. 683 00:30:11,041 --> 00:30:13,625 I think that we all need to fix our aim. 684 00:30:13,708 --> 00:30:15,416 Yeah, I'm-I'm good. 685 00:30:15,500 --> 00:30:17,625 My aim is 686 00:30:17,708 --> 00:30:18,809 Yeah? 687 00:30:18,833 --> 00:30:20,226 When's the last time you dated someone? 688 00:30:20,250 --> 00:30:22,458 Yeah, like, actually dated, more than a week or two, 689 00:30:22,541 --> 00:30:24,375 'cause you never give anyone a chance. 690 00:30:24,458 --> 00:30:27,333 Work is my focus, but if I found someone who fit The List... 691 00:30:27,416 --> 00:30:28,767 - The List. - The List. Yes, we know. 692 00:30:28,791 --> 00:30:32,541 It is my masterpiece in progress guiding me towards my perfect man. 693 00:30:32,625 --> 00:30:35,416 This book says that you need to rip up The List. 694 00:30:35,500 --> 00:30:37,458 I'm not ripping up anything. 695 00:30:37,541 --> 00:30:40,500 Do you know how long it's taken me to curate that? 696 00:30:40,583 --> 00:30:46,291 What if all the things that you think you want are actually holding you back? 697 00:30:46,375 --> 00:30:48,500 You are really drinking the Kool-Aid. 698 00:30:48,583 --> 00:30:50,833 Yeah. I'm chugging it. 699 00:30:50,916 --> 00:30:52,125 Okay, look. 700 00:30:53,541 --> 00:30:55,875 "Have you ever known a girl who dated pretty much any guy 701 00:30:55,958 --> 00:31:00,166 who happened to show an interest in her without ever stopping to think about 702 00:31:00,250 --> 00:31:03,583 the kind of guy who would really be right for her?" 703 00:31:03,666 --> 00:31:05,083 Mm. 704 00:31:05,875 --> 00:31:08,500 "Or a couple who have dated for a long time 705 00:31:08,583 --> 00:31:10,101 and have gotten so comfortable with it 706 00:31:10,125 --> 00:31:12,750 that they aren't making any move towards marriage?" 707 00:31:13,333 --> 00:31:16,083 Ooh, that book is a wake-up call. 708 00:31:16,166 --> 00:31:18,806 You know, I-I was really trying to be the "go with the flow" chick, 709 00:31:18,833 --> 00:31:21,041 but I can't do that anymore. 710 00:31:21,125 --> 00:31:24,875 And I can't just keep going out with every guy who swipes right. 711 00:31:24,958 --> 00:31:25,958 Mm. 712 00:31:26,041 --> 00:31:27,875 I got to try this. 713 00:31:27,958 --> 00:31:30,833 Chapter four. It's the nugget chapter. 714 00:31:32,083 --> 00:31:33,333 "Intentional Dating." 715 00:31:33,416 --> 00:31:36,791 Yep. And I need to reread chapter five: "Does It Need to End?" 716 00:31:39,625 --> 00:31:41,500 Seriously, nothing speaks to you? 717 00:31:41,583 --> 00:31:44,291 Like the chapter about unpacking to repack? 718 00:31:44,375 --> 00:31:47,041 You don't think that you need to fix your aim? 719 00:31:47,125 --> 00:31:51,750 While I appreciate the concern, my aim is clear. 720 00:31:51,833 --> 00:31:56,250 I'm going to kick Jarrett Roy to the curb, land my promotion, 721 00:31:56,333 --> 00:32:00,708 break the glass ceiling, and then everything will be great. 722 00:32:01,416 --> 00:32:03,291 But first, I can't believe 723 00:32:03,375 --> 00:32:08,333 I have to spend my Sunday alone, here, shooting B-roll with that a-hole. 724 00:32:08,416 --> 00:32:11,541 ♪ <i>You are Jehovah</i> ♪ 725 00:32:11,625 --> 00:32:13,541 ♪ <i>I stand in awe</i> ♪ 726 00:32:13,625 --> 00:32:16,458 ♪ <i>I stand in awe of You</i> ♪ 727 00:32:16,541 --> 00:32:20,750 - ♪ <i>Nothing You can't do</i> ♪ - ♪ <i>There's nothing You can't do</i> ♪ 728 00:32:20,833 --> 00:32:22,833 ♪ <i>The Great I Am</i> ♪ 729 00:32:22,916 --> 00:32:24,541 ♪ <i>We know who You are</i> ♪ 730 00:32:24,625 --> 00:32:28,208 ♪ <i>Sovereign Redeemer</i> ♪ 731 00:32:28,291 --> 00:32:31,666 - ♪<i> All power's in Your hands</i> ♪ - ♪<i> All power's in Your hands</i> ♪ 732 00:32:31,750 --> 00:32:35,666 - ♪<i> Do